The door opened and I
couldn't quite see what all the hubbub was about. The walls were brown, the
amphitheater style seating was a bit steeper than I had anticipated. Gold pipes
with shiny noses poking out above more brown, the framing of the organ, it
seemed like a normal choir room. The students shuffling in, each with their
different shape and size. I sat in the back with the rest of my class ready for
this excursion to show its true colors. My high school self was sitting there trying
to grasp the idea that this would be me one day soon. I had just got dumped 2
weeks prior and the wound was still fresh. I sat, quiet, in the back of that
auditorium next to Alex, one of my closest friends. A boy sat on my other side.
Alex introduced him to me. His mess of brown curls bounced as he sat down his
deep dark freckles and a voice higher than any bass I had ever met. This was Garian.
The three of us talked, laughed and caused entirely too much ruckus in the
short 50 minutes we were there listening intently to the choir. At the end of what
I’m sure was beautiful choir music walked out of that auditorium better friends
than eer and I walked out that day having laughed harder than I had in weeks.
Big, green posters littering the walls of every portion of
the school telling boys that they better ask to the dance, that “Homecoming is
the Bee’s Knees” with a cute little picture of a bee in a suit and everyone was
talking about whether or not they were going to go, or who had asked them. The
gossip was spreading through the school like a bacteria, infecting each girl
who hadn’t been asked yet as they watched their friends pick out their dress
and answer in cute clever ways. I had resigned myself that I wasn’t going to go
and so had my best friend Rylie but like any teenage girls the hope was still
burning within us. We scoped out prospective dates sitting at our locker every
day. Pointing and giggling as each cute guy passed by. Trying to brainwash them
telepathically into asking us out. Little did we know we would both be asked
that night in ridiculously clever ways. I had returned home that night to a
giant poster plastered to my wall. It’s black lettering shouting out to be
against its white backdrop. This message from a boy asking me to go with him. I
bounced into school the next day excited to tell my story and plan what we
would do in retaliation. I soon discovered Rylie had been asked that same
night, and by a guy she barely knew. This was war. We spent every break between
classes brainstorming and trying to plan the best possible response. We settled
on one. That night we gathered our
supplies and shoved the massive amounts of rainbow balloons into the back of my
friend’s car. We began driving around in search of the house. Finally after 20
minutes of wandering we found it. Knocking on the door we were greeted by the
smile of his mother. She let us in and led us to his room. His brown walls were
bare and the only furniture in the room was a bed and a blue drumset, set off
in the corner. We dumped bag after bag of balloons on the floor, the colors of
each bag illuminating the room a little more. We set the poster with a giant “Yes”
on the windowsill and left the room, closing the door. Then we took rolls of
toilet paper and covered his entire doorframe with a gauzy, white packaging.
This is how we left that night, with no idea of his reaction.
Matthew is one of the best people I have ever met. We never
really hung out until about halfway through our senior year when fate or circumstance
brought us together for a date. Having promised Garian that I would be his
first date. I recruited Matthew to help me out. We had to plan a makeshift date in less than 12
hours in order for me to keep my promise. We sat at the granite countertop in
his kitchen throwing ideas at the wall in hopes that one would stick. I was ignoring
my stomach’s aching, not wanting to be rude and ask for something to eat. My
ache in my stomach begin to claw its way to my vocal cords to voice its
displeasure with my lack of nutrients. It was in this moment that I caved to
what I thought was rude and simply asked if he had anything I could eat.
“Thank goodness” he said as he pulled out a toaster and some
bread “I was afraid to eat anything in front of you”. He looked at me with a
big bright grin like he had just told the funniest joke in the world. His teddy
bear like cheeks showing his dimples and his whole body giggled as he started
to laugh. His laugh was contagious and I couldn't
help the chuckle that escaped
my lips as we proceeded to eat the entire loaf as toast. Delicious, delicious
toast. Before we knew it the majority of his kitchen was covered in all kinds
of breakfast food, from purple jams to orange juice his kitchen had never been
so colorful. Between bites of toast and sips of orange juice we laughed and
planned this makeshift date in record time, my stomach moaning from laughter
and having been fed. From that moment on we were near inseparable.
It was always the four of us. Sitting in Matt’s basement.
It’s white walls covered in pictures of temples and Christ, courtesy of Matt’s
mother. Every night was a collection of faces. Each night different but almost
always those 3, consistent smiles shining through the darkness of the basement
brighter than the blue glow of the TV screen. As time passed more faces were
added to that brightness. Each smile a reminder of the love around me. Mckay,
Austin, Alex, Tiffany, Madelyn, Tyler. Brought together in that mansion of a
house. Every day Matt’s car would be outside each of our houses. It’s low
rumble a comfort in winter. It’s blasting music a party anthem in the heat.
Celebrating the good. Coming together to fix the hardships. Sharing scriptures
and testimonies. Crying together, laughing together.
We were bandits, we were adventurers, we were missionaries
and we were friends. It was one of those friendships that just happened and
until you look back you had no idea it would change your life. We were slowly
approaching the day Matt would go off to college and none of us knew what was
going to happen. The night before he left we all sat in his basement. So many
people were there but as the night progressed people kept leaving. The night dragged
on and it was starting to get late. I looked around me and realized it was just
the four of us now, Matt, Rylie, Garian and me, sitting in that basement just
like we used to. We decided to go for a drive so we piled into Matt’s car and
began to drive. The music was its classic party anthem, the gray leather seats
of his van squeaking as each of made even the slightest move. We were laughing
and smiling. We found ourselves at the Y parking lot. The music began to mellow
down and conversation got deeper. Matt started to talk about how he was afraid
to leave. And we all listened. Then one by one we each gave our best advice,
sharing a story from the Book of Mormon or our own personal experiences in
life. I can only remember one story that was told. Garian said “it was a good
day to be good” a saying that quickly became our slogan. In the following
months this slogan kept me going. I don’t remember what stories were told that
night, but I do remember I have never been so grateful in my entire life.
The experiences you shared connected with me, and I'm sure it would connect with the audience, because we all have had similar experiences. I would have liked to see more of a personal connection and reflection due to these experiences, and how the Book of Mormon connects as well.
ReplyDeleteOur friends play a big role in determining who we become, and who we are. Just like the alma and the sons of mosiah. They went for being trouble makers to great missionaries. My friends help me to stay on a good path and to do what is right as well. I don't miss high school, bit my friends made it so I too have good memories to look back on.
ReplyDeleteI think it's awesome that you had friends in high school that were so open to talking about scriptures in a non-church setting. You can probably see the blessings that came from a friendship like that, and judging by this essay you are very grateful for that. Friendships play an under-appreciated role in helping us reach our potential.
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